In the world of addiction, the addict becomes so consumed with what he wants that, it is only after he gets what he wants and grows bored with it, that he even begins to consider what he actually needs. Addiction recovery has a lot to do with acknowledging what one actually needs and committing to those needs. Do you need for your penis to orgasm several times a day with strange women or do you need to save your marriage and commit to your children? Do you need to conquer the heart of “a 10” so that you can have the satisfaction of tossing her away like trash, or do you need to figure out what ails your aching soul so that you can live your life as a decent human being – one that you and your family can be proud of? When your penis speaks to you, the message is fleeting and the benefits are short-lived. When your truth is embraced, you find peace and fulfillment in life. Are you following the voice of “want” or “need”?
BrianR has been in submissive training with Mistress Alisa for just a little bit under a month. However, his progress has been impressive. So impressive, in fact, that Mistress Alisa decided to have him on the show to share intimate details about his journey, thus far.
Men have conversations with their penises all the time, but most of the time they have no idea what they are even doing. And because they are unaware of the fact that there is, in fact, an on-going dialogue going on with their penises, they would be surprised to find out that a great deal of the conversation is one-sided. The dick tells them what they need, what they need to do, how to fill the aching within, etc., and the man simply complies. With very little resistance at all, he often-times will just go along with what his cock is saying and only deal with the consequences – or the TRUTH of what he has done – afterwards.
In her very first “story time segment,” Mistress Alisa shares details of how one of her clients threw away months of hard work, all because he assigned too high of a value to a blowjob. Learning to create a safe place in which you and your partner are able to flourish together is tricky enough as it is. But when one’s sexual mindset has been conditioned by years and years of extreme kink, desensitization to the needs of one’s partner is bound to become a real issue. Here is “Steve’s” story.
SamS has been on a year-long BDSM journey with Mistress Alisa – a journey in which She is the Dominant female who directs his path and one in which he is the submissive male who learns to submit. He opens up about the ups and downs of his relationship with Her during that time. Sam speaks frankly about his feelings and the lessons that he has learned. He also shares some of the mistakes that he has made along the way.
The BDSM lifestyle can be quite compelling, and yet it can also be pretty intimidating. It can be harmful and yet it can be fulfilling. It can stunt one’s emotional and sexual self, and yet it can free those very same parts of a person.