Addiction

Porn, Sex, and Masturbation Addictions

Porn, sex, and masturbation addictions often co-exist. They feed off of each other, making it difficult to know where one addiction begins, another ends, and where each of them overlap.

Porn addiction results in an individual watching pornography for a disproportionate amount of time. Sex addiction results in an individual engaging in sexual activity (usually with another) for a disproportionate amount of time. Masturbation addiction results in an individual engaging in self-pleasuring for a disproportionate amount of time.

There may or may not be sexual release in any of these three situations. Achieving orgasm is not always the main objective. In fact, many are surprised to learn of men who go extended periods of time, as long as several months, without experiencing sexual release.

It used to surprise me the number of men who would contact me requesting counseling for their addiction, while also requesting that I play an active role in leading them even deeper down the path of addiction. It no longer surprises me, but this fact does sadden me.

In fact, just before coming to work on this article I received a follow-up message from a male who had, earlier in the day, spoken quite sincerely about seeking assistance for his addiction. He talked about the ways in which his addiction had impacted his 20-year marriage, his wife, his children, his job performance, and even the way that his local community perceived him. And mere hours later, he followed up with the request that I financially dominate him instead of counseling him. I declined.

Addiction is an absolute beast. You have to fight for moments of clarity. And when you recognize that you are having a moment of clarity, especially in the beginning phases, hold onto them for dear life. You’re going to need them. Slaying the beast of addiction requires focus and dedication. It requires perseverance. Slaying the beast of addiction takes a mind that is equipped to work through challenges one at a time.

Progress may be slow at times, but it is still progress.

So, keep putting one foot in front of the other, and keep moving forward. You’ve got this. If you stumble and fall, get up, steady yourself and when you’re ready to take another step forward, do so. You’ve got this.

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