In Her Own Words 2018-12-07T16:43:38+00:00

Barriers & Challenges (pt. 2)

Selfishness. Selfishness is actually one of the strongest deterrents to self-fulfillment. Human beings are most fulfilled when they are safe, living their truth, and when embracing healthy relationships with self and with others. The notion that acting in a selfish manner will bring fulfillment is absolutely false.

Inconsistency. A loose definition of consistency might be “doing what needs to be done, but only occasionally, and mostly when it absolutely needs to be done.” Living one’s life without the discipline and commitment necessary to get things done in a timely fashion can be particularly problematic – especially when unresolved issues from one’s past come knocking. This type of person never gives himself a chance to gain momentum. He never gives himself a chance to truly succeed in life.

Judgment. Labeling things as right or wrong, and good or bad helps society to maintain order. However, we often take things a step further and use judgment in an attempt to control others. Many of my clients find themselves struggling with self-doubt and even self-hatred because of perceived pressure to live their lives according to someone else’s liking. There is freedom in overcoming judgment – either others’ or one’s own.

Hopelessness. People give up for two reasons: 1) They are afraid of failure; afraid that their efforts will be in vain, or 2) They are afraid of success; afraid that they are unworthy of the success that they seek. Hopelessness occurs when a person does not have the emotional and/or mental energy to persevere. Will power, alone, is not enough to counteract hopelessness. When embarking on major life changes, it is important to keep a close eye on your mental and emotional states.